Then you're not doing it right. Or didn't have it done right. And there's absolutely no reason you have to get married to find that out. Marriage is a sham anyway. Who wants to be permanently linked to one person forever? That's boring. Like I said, the same set of genitals gets boring after awhile. Best bet is to go out and find fun new ones to play with. Or be played with. I dunno. Whatever way you lean, lean hard.
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